Ask Yourself These 3 Questions to Come up with a New Year's Resolution that Sticks

Photo by  Ian Schneider

Photo by Ian Schneider

Let’s be honest. There are about 2,485,897 articles you can read about New Year’s resolutions right now. We all know the drill. It’s easy to start off strong, then find ourselves totally deflated and defeated a week into the New Year, when life is going full-speed ahead once again. It's so easy--too easy--to throw our arms up in the air and abort mission. So, to begin, make a solemn promise to yourself right now that you won't take the easy way out a few weeks from now. Done? Good!

I’m just as guilty of jumping the New Year's Resolution ship as anyone else (and maybe even more so). The difference is that this year, I’m more determined and have more motivation than ever before. As I stand at the brink of 2018, I know I have battles ahead and that the stakes are high, so I’m determined to be the best me possible. Thus, the impetus for The Balanced Ninja—to keep myself accountable beyond January, and perhaps to even share a bit of inspiration along the way.

So, let’s make this quick and to the point. Make yourself a cup of tea, grab a notebook and a pen, and get ready to answer these three questions. (If you want to read an entire article about setting and keeping New Year’s resolutions, check out this New York Times article.)

1.     Figure out your motivation for your New Year’s goal.

If that motivation is external (i.e., your mom says you need to lose a few), find a new goal or think a little bit more deeply about how doing what it takes to make this goal happen specifically pertains to you and what you can do for yourself. We all know it, but it bears mentioning here: The only way you can change is because you want to change. Although, for the purposes of this exercise, let’s think of this as refining ourselves rather than changing, shall we? Because, after all, you’re great just the way you are.

2.     Make sure your goal is as specific as possible so that you can monitor your progress.

For example, at the beginning of this post I said that I wanted to “be the best me possible.” That’s floaty. What I mean by that is that I want to consistently make time for and take care of myself in body, mind, heart, and spirit, so that I’m like a ninja, on top of my game, lean and streamlined (metaphorically speaking). I will track that progress on this website. Okay, your turn.

3.     Be realistic.

Are you going to be a brand new person by the end of this year? Probably not—but, then again, why would you want to be? Maybe you can’t get all the way to your ultimate end goal by the end of 2018, but you can absolutely make some progress. And, as we all know, the days are slow, but the years are fast. Maybe you won’t lose fifty pounds or finish your novel by the end of this year, but you can absolutely lose and keep off twenty pounds and plot out and begin writing a quarter of your book. And that’s a lot! Again, think about the idea of refinement here.

And, finally, take a few moments and visualize yourself and where you want to be on this day in 2018. How awesome is it going to feel to know you’ve put in the hard work and determination to get there? Hold on to that.

 What is your goal for 2018? Let’s keep each other accountable! Let me know in the comments or shoot me a message.